by Josh Mclane
My name is Josh Mclane. I am a comedian, musician, writer, podcaster, and a filmmaker, but most importantly I am a brother, son and a husband.
I am a male. I believe my opinion on reproductive rights means very little honestly. This isn’t pandering, this is truth. I can’t stand it when some asshole dude starts to scream from the mountain top that his good book says women should know their place and let men do the thinking. I was raised by women that instilled in me a respect for a woman’s choice. They made a point of reminding me with their actions that no one has rule over their bodies in any way. I am also a firm believer that if you know you’re not ready to have a child then you shouldn’t have one.
A long time ago I found out that I was going to be a father, that my ex was pregnant. Was. She forced a miscarriage. When I heard that she had done this I was furious at first. Then, I realized how selfish and stupid it was to feel like that and that. I had not thought for a second how she felt about the situation. Sometimes I think about “What might have been.”‘ Then I remember the amount of drugs I was doing at the time and life that I probably would not have given up, being that my head was so unbelievably far up my own ass. We weren’t even dating anymore when it happened. Would we have been good parents? Probably not. That wasn’t a chance I would have taken, more than likely. Yeah, I sometimes miss the idea of that child, but the reality would have horrible for that child and the two of us.
I have a hard time understanding how it is 2016 and we’re still having to fight for a woman’s right to choose. Not everyone is made to be a parent. No child deserves to spend their life being something that feels like a burden more than a gift. I am married now to my best friend, she cares deeply for reproductive rights. I am beyond proud of what she does for all of us. She stands up for what is right and just. The amount of energy my wife exerts on this could easily be used to do something else. She shouldn’t have to be fighting. She cries to herself sometimes when she reads the news about women’s rights. She thinks I don’t see. It kills me. I can barely fathom what it’s like to not have complete control over what you do with your body. Why anyone thinks they know more about what’s best for a person than the person and their doctor is baffling. The balls it takes to make an assumption like that are balls I don’t want making laws. I will gladly fight and vote at every opportunity to stop this lack of compassion and pigheadedness that seems to have grown like a weed. Whether it started with class or religion, that doesn’t matter, it must be acknowledged that women are the keepers of life and they know what they are doing. They have thought about what they need to do and we should trust them to do so. I for one, do and will make sure if I am going to have children, he or she will too.